Whatever happened to that whole dating thing?

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Let’s skip the small talk and get right to the point. 

 

Where did college dating go?

The word “dating” is not readily found in the vocabulary of many college students these days.  It seems more like a relic from the school days of our baby boomer parents, likely to be associated with antiquated words like “courting”, “wooing”, or “going steady”. 

The guy is no longer expected to pick the girl up.  He’s no longer expected to pay for everything.  Or initiate the date, for that matter.  Long gone are the Mary Jane and Peter’s and Noah and Allie’s.  In their place we find casanovas that have girlfriend lists longer than John Mayer’s. Unfortunately, their affections last scarcely through the next morning.  

Not to say that dating is dead, though.  It has simply just become very VERY casual.  Dinner and a movie used to be the norm, but now meeting up at a party or studying together could be considered official “date” occasions. To complicate things more, our generation has come up with a dating language to specify exactly what your dating status is (i.e talking, hooking up, friends with benefits, open relationships, serious, etc.)

Let me just tell you right now that, no matter what you might be thinking, the ‘hookup culture’ is not really the issue.  That’s always been a college thing and it always will be.  Throw together social media, emojis, texting addictions, and mix them all into a college campus and you know you’re going to have a problem. Obviously a text that reads “<3 xox” doesn’t have the same effect as saying “I love you”.  Once we stop playing games, ditch the defense mechanism of apathy, and quit communicating with emoticons, we will be much better off when it comes to dating. 

Ladies, this one goes out to those of you who have lost all hope. The good, dateable guys are out there, you’re just looking in all the wrong places.  I know it may be a bit of a shock, but you’re probably not going to find the love of your life sitting at a bar. Or at a rowdy fraternity party.  It’s time for you ladies to get the real southern gentleman you deserve.  And the respect you deserve, for that matter. 

Don’t settle for less. Stop playing games.  Enjoy the dating game.#ChivalryIsntDead

 

 

Just a little advice/rant from your favorite southern gal. 

 

xx

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Snow What Fun!

Happy Wednesday!

Let me just take a moment to say that it is indeed snowing here in South Carolina.  As this is a rare occurrence, everyone, including myself, is freaking out. Although it’s strange to see palmetto trees and other southern icons dusted with snow, the scenery is breathtakingly beautiful. Take a look:

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As you may have guessed, this post isn’t geared towards chatting about freak winter storms. No, I’d rather talk about what i’ve seen people wearing around campus this week! In case you didn’t know, here at the University of South Carolina temperatures can rise to about 65 one day, then drop to 20 the next! 

 

Here are my most-spotted pieces: 

1. Hunter Boots

Okay i’ll admit it, these things are a good investment. Not only for the rain, but for the snow too! Jump on the bandwagon and buy a pair of these rain boots. Plus, they’re available in almost any color under the sun. 

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(Rag & Bone Tall boots, $295, usa.hunter-boot.com)

 

2. Winter Headbands

One of my favorite winter essentials! These give you all the warmth of a hat, without all the commitment. Also, there are so many different types! Lululemon has a great version that keeps you warm while walking, exercising, or just playing!

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(Frosty Run Ear Warmer, $32, shop.lululemon.com)

 

3. Tech Gloves

This could quite possibly be the greatest innovation since sliced bread. No more having to take your gloves off to use a touch screen! To be honest, I was skeptical at first.  Now I have them in three colors! These gloves for everyday outings will keep your fingers warm in style! 

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(Ralph Lauren Military Tech Gloves with Leather Trim, $35, bloomingdales.com)

 

What are you waiting for? Go out and enjoy the cold weather! Just make sure you dress for the occasion. 

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Fancy Pants

What’s something that heats things up when the weather gets cool? Printed jeans, of course! From casual to dressy, these can spice up any outfit! These are not only a staple in my fall/winter wardrobe, but i’ve also been seeing them in stores and look books everywhere! Below I have corralled my top five picks!

1.These jeans give casual a new name! They’re are perfect with a laid back shirt, messy hair, and ankle boots!

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($150, anthropologie.com)

2. Urban Outfitters knows jeans. These are perfect because the black and white print goes with almost anything! Plus, the polka dots and high waist give it a fresh look! These are great paired with a flawy crop-top and flats!

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($59, urbanoutfitters.com)

3. These are so cute and perfect for Spring! Best paired with wedges, statement jewelry, and a shopping day.

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($165, joesjeans.com)

4. More black and white! These are dressier, so prepare to look chic with pumps, a blazer, and an updo!

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($215, nordstrom.com)

5. Okay, they’re not printed but coated. Think leather, without the leather-ness. They’re just like regular jeans but with a semi-shiny coating, great for dressing up an otherwise casual outfit!

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($199, nordstrom.com)

I hope you’ve enjoyed! Happy jeans shopping!

Comment below.

xx

Milk Bar #1: Cornflake-Chocolate-Chip-Marshmallow-Cookies

Winter is my favorite time of year in the south, not only because of the cozy sweaters, crackling fires, and the snow (sometimes), but there are also endless excuses so stay warm inside the kitchen and bake all day long!

Throughout my cooking adventures this season, I took a few looks into my Momofuku Milk Bar cookbook. Now, if you’ve never heard of this NYC bakery, I would go so far as to say that you have never truly lived and that you should book a plane ticket right this moment. However, i’d like to save you all that nonsense and just post the best recipes right here on Cornbread & Cashmere. You can thank me later.

Among the many cookie recipes in this cookbook, the Cornflake-Chocolate-Chip-Marshmallow’s caught my eye. Cereal in a cookie? Sounds weird, but it’s so delicious. There’s also a lot of work involved in these, but trust me, it’s worth it!

What you need:

  • 2 sticks butter
  • 1 1/4 cups granulated sugar
  • 2/3 cup light brown sugar, tightly packed
  • 1 egg
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1 1/2 cups flour
  • 1/2 tsp baking powder
  • 1/2 tsp baking soda
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons kosher salt
  • 3 cups cornflake crunch (recipe below)
  • 2⁄3 cup mini chocolate chips
  • 1 1/4 cups mini marshmallows

1. combine the butter and sugars in the bowl of a stand mixer fitted with the paddle attachment and cream together on medium-high for 2 to 3 minutes. scrape down the sides of the bowl, add the egg and vanilla, and beat for 7 to 8 minutes. (see page 27 for notes on this process.)

2. reduce the mixer speed to low and add the flour, baking powder, baking soda, and salt. mix just until the dough comes together, no longer than 1 minute. (do not walk away from the machine during this step, or you will risk over mixing the dough.) scrape down the sides of the bowl with a spatula.

3. still on low speed, paddle in the cornflake crunch and mini chocolate chips just until they’re incorporated, no more than 30 to 45 seconds. paddle in the mini marshmallows just until incorporated.

4. using a 2 3/4 oz ice cream scoop (or a 1/3 cup measure), portion out the dough onto a parchment-lined sheet pan. pat the tops of the cookie dough domes flat. wrap the sheet pan tightly in plastic wrap and refrigerate for at least 1 hour, or up to 1 week. do not bake your cookies from room temperature—they will not hold their shape.

5. heat the oven to 375°f.

6. arrange the chilled dough a minimum of 4 inches apart on parchment- or silpat-lined sheet pans. bake for 18 minutes. the cookies will puff, crackle, and spread. at the 18-minute mark, the cookies should be browned on the edges and just beginning to brown toward the center. leave them in the oven for an additional minute or so if they aren’t and they still seem pale and doughy on the surface.

7. cool the cookies completely on the sheet pans before transferring to a plate or to an airtight container for storage. at room temperature, the cookies will keep fresh for 5 days; in the freezer, they will keep for 1 month.

Cornflake Crunch:

  • 1/2 12oz box or 5 cups cornflakes
  • 1/2 cup milk powder
  • 3 tbs sugar
  • 1 tsp kosher salt
  • 9 tbs butter, melted

1. heat the oven to 275°f.

2. pour the cornflakes in a medium bowl and crush them with your hands to one-quarter of their original size. add the milk powder, sugar, and salt and toss to mix. add the butter and toss to coat. as you toss, the butter will act as glue, binding the dry ingredients to the cereal and creating small clusters.

3. spread the clusters on a parchment- or silpat-lined sheet pan and bake for 20 minutes, at which point they should look toasted, smell buttery, and crunch gently when cooled slightly and chewed.

4. cool the cornflake crunch completely before storing or using in a recipe. stored in an airtight container at room temperature, the crunch will keep fresh for 1 week; in the fridge or freezer, it will keep for 1 month.

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Enjoy!

xx

The Do’s and Don’t’s of NYE

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Happy New Year’s Eve! 

Tonight marks the beginning of a new year, new beginnings, and most importantly, fabulous celebrations! If you’re looking for some last minute tips and tricks, you’ve come to the right place! Here’s my list of Do’s and Don’t’s for your best NYE yet! 

 

Do…

-Wear some sparkle. This one’s a no brainer, right? Try out a new style, buy a new dress, make yourself feel beautiful!

-Play up your makeup! The sparkle rule doesn’t only apply to clothing. Darker eye makeup is better for the evening, which goes great with a little shimmer! Need some inspiration? Try this tutorial!  http://www.makeup-box.com/post/38915177348/subtle-glitzy-new-year-glitter-eye-heres-a

-Try and find someone to kiss at midnight. Don’t go crazy, a simple peck will do just fine. Studies show that people who get kissed at midnight on New Year’s Eve are 72% more optimistic about the upcoming year! don’t forget your lip gloss!

-Make a New Year’s Resolution! I’ve saved the best for last. If there’s something you want to change in 2014, then make it happen! If you don’t think you can do it alone, grab some friends and make it a group resolution! How fun!

 

Don’t…

-Wear something completely outrageous. We all know the girl who goes all out on New Year’s Eve and looks ridiculous. Think of it as any other party and be an enhanced version of the ‘you’ everyone knows and loves! Lauren Conrad sheds some light on the situation… http://laurenconrad.com/blog/post/style-guide-new-years-eve-dress-2012 

-Spring for the red lipstick and half a bottle of perfume. Subtle is the key word here. I’d stick to tinted balm and light gloss (and mints) if you’re planning for some midnight magic.  Also, three spritzes of perfume (one on the neck, wrist, and through the hair) will get the job done!

-Worry about getting kissed at midnight.  Keep your friends close, and your girlfriends closer. If all else fails, play tetris on your phone until the moment subsides. 

-Make a resolution you know you will not be able to keep. Let’s be realistic here, shall we? Choose something you know you can do, even if it’s small (like dressing up for school a little more or watching less TV!)

 

P.S- need some help with accessorizing? I’ve got you.  http://www.teenvogue.com/fashion/winter-trends/2013-12/new-years-eve-jewelry-accessories

 

 

I hope you’ve enjoyed! I wish you all a fabulous 2014 filled with wonderful times!